Are We Just Looking to Meet Our Needs, or Are We Looking for Love?
"Love is a many splendored thing
Love lifts us up where we belong
All you need is love" – Ewan McGregror, Elephant Love Medley, Moulin Rouge
Rabbi Twerski makes a compelling argument in this video, and it's had me really thinking for the last couple of days, which is why I share it here, and hope for your feedback and opinion.
All you need is love. Okay, now define love. I'm conflicted as I write this because I want to believe that everything I've known of love has not been self-serving, but admittedly, my notions of love, aside from the Disney fairytale versions are that it doesn't exist outside of codependency. Not existing outside of codependency means that it does not exist at all, and that leaves me feeling blank. I want to believe in love just the same way that I want to believe in God, but both require a blind-faith that I don't seem to be able to muster.
I believe in good works. I believe in doing things for other people. I believe in strong emotional connections to people. I don't know if I believe these things can be separated out from simply fulfilling one's own needs. Wow. Maybe I am that cynical.
"A girl has got to eat
Or she'll end up on the streets
Love is just a game
The only way of loving me baby, is to pay a lovely fee" –Nicole Kidman, Elephant Love Medley, Moulin Rouge
How can we be truly altruistic, be it in relationships with other people, or how we operate in the world? The video of Rabbi Twerski is posted by Goalcast and is being used to market their new book, "Explore Your Potential" with the tagline "Create the Life You've Always Wanted - Reconnect with your dreams and jumpstart your personal transformation." Perhaps there are some answers in here. Perhaps the greatest answer was already given in the video.
Identify our needs. Be honest with ourselves about what we are getting or giving. Give selflessly (that's harder than it sounds, isn't it?).
What do you think?